I had a very interesting conversation with a good friend of mine last week. We were having different opinions of how we were trying to control our thinking and life. We somehow had a vast difference in the way we thought and we decided it was good not to end up arguing on it. However, as my bad habbit goes, I tend to think a lot. So, back home, I was thinking as to what benifits can reall controlling give to a human.
I was thinking of some of my friends who had achieved a lot in early age. Some were still struggling. Some were still trying to realise where to go. But, in general, everyone felt positive about themself to a degree to which they felt they had control of their life. On the contrary, those who were struggling, felt negative about thmselves to the degree to which they felt they dint have enough control or were probably controlled by external forces of other people around them. I was, I am, and I guess, I will continue to be surprised by this great contradiction.
I did happen to speak to a friend of mine on this. He told 'When I sense that I have enough control on what is happening around me which involves me, I have more personal power'. Ever since he told me these words, they seem to have begun a new process in my mind. There have been times when i felt I was controlled by people, parents, my colleagues, my managers. I felt so out of control. There was negative energy all around me, anxious most of the time, felt restless, felt I was unable to cope up with the fast changing world around me.
For the fast changing things around me that brought the unknown side in me which was not required, i have something to say.. "Its time to change!!!!"
Monday, January 7, 2008
Thursday, January 3, 2008
Change the way you think, your world will change for sure
If there is an effect in your life, such as lack of money, overweight, problems in your relationships, a unsatisfying job or career, or any other difficulty, just try tracing that effect back to the things that you did to cause it, and by removing the causes, you can begin o remove the effects, sometimes immediately.
The key to enjoying more of what people call luck is for you to engage in more of the actions that are more likely to bring about the consequences that you desire. For me, my daily activity included careful planning, organizing my work before I began, selecting the right people for the job, delegating properly, supervising intelligently, and vigorously executing the required tasks. I realised that in my life today, every aspect possible, is the result of my past decisions and behaviours. Its just like the saying "As you sow, so shall you reap.."
Like the saying goes, a man becomes what he thinks about most of the time. This was true, is true and will definitely continue to be true as well.
There were two men who were in the jail, were serving their punishment, At the end of the day, each went bakc to their respective cells. What would you think was the difference in them? You might think that they both were of same genre, a criminal. Probably both were ruthless at heart and were cold blooded. Probably they were. One saw the mud, and always worried about his past. He cribbed, cribbed and cribbed. Then he wept wept wept and wept. On the contrary, the other man, from his cell, through the window, looked at the stars and dreamt. He dreamt a dream of being out of the prison and leading a happy life. He reassured himself that things would be great again.
As per the predictions made by the famous Harvard University, there are few things that might strike a blow into yout thinking process.
Firstly, There would be more changes this year that ever before.
Secondly, there would be more competition than ever before.
Thirdly, there would be more opportunities than ever before.
But, those who do not adjust to the rapid rate of change, respond to the increase in competition, or take advancatage of the new opportunities available would be out of their job within two years.
A person's belief about himself creates an expectations. The expectations determine the attitude. The attitude determines the behaviour and the way a person behaves to other people. This inturn determines how other people behave with that person. This completely falls in sync with a famous saying "What is going on outside of you is a reflection or manisfestation of what is goig on inside you"..
Change the way you think, your world will change for sure..
The key to enjoying more of what people call luck is for you to engage in more of the actions that are more likely to bring about the consequences that you desire. For me, my daily activity included careful planning, organizing my work before I began, selecting the right people for the job, delegating properly, supervising intelligently, and vigorously executing the required tasks. I realised that in my life today, every aspect possible, is the result of my past decisions and behaviours. Its just like the saying "As you sow, so shall you reap.."
Like the saying goes, a man becomes what he thinks about most of the time. This was true, is true and will definitely continue to be true as well.
There were two men who were in the jail, were serving their punishment, At the end of the day, each went bakc to their respective cells. What would you think was the difference in them? You might think that they both were of same genre, a criminal. Probably both were ruthless at heart and were cold blooded. Probably they were. One saw the mud, and always worried about his past. He cribbed, cribbed and cribbed. Then he wept wept wept and wept. On the contrary, the other man, from his cell, through the window, looked at the stars and dreamt. He dreamt a dream of being out of the prison and leading a happy life. He reassured himself that things would be great again.
As per the predictions made by the famous Harvard University, there are few things that might strike a blow into yout thinking process.
Firstly, There would be more changes this year that ever before.
Secondly, there would be more competition than ever before.
Thirdly, there would be more opportunities than ever before.
But, those who do not adjust to the rapid rate of change, respond to the increase in competition, or take advancatage of the new opportunities available would be out of their job within two years.
A person's belief about himself creates an expectations. The expectations determine the attitude. The attitude determines the behaviour and the way a person behaves to other people. This inturn determines how other people behave with that person. This completely falls in sync with a famous saying "What is going on outside of you is a reflection or manisfestation of what is goig on inside you"..
Change the way you think, your world will change for sure..
Chance versus Luck
When people achieve great success faster than others, they are immediately accussed of having good luck. If peple make a mess of their lives, largely due to their own shortcomings, they dismiss it as bad luck. All of life is like a casino. Some have had success in gaming tables of life, and some not. Most people, including me for many years, never understood the difference between Chance and Luck.
When i checked on it, I was surprised. It was quite eveident that I was surprised. Chance refers to gambling, to casinos, to blackjack,poker, slot mahcines, and horse racing. In games of chance, the outcome is totally and completely out of control for the player. There is little or no influnece on the result by th player. The level of risk is so high that the chance of winning it over a ong period of time is almost zero.
But, Luck is different, totally different. it is like the probabilities in action. Whever you see a person who has succeeded greatly, you would definitely notice a series or a chain of events that have happened in the past to achieve a particular outcome. The lucky person, for sure, did many things in combination, which staggeringly increased the likelihood that his or her desired goal could be achieved.
All problems appear very simple when solved. The great victorry of present was th result of a series of small victorie that went unnoticed.
When i checked on it, I was surprised. It was quite eveident that I was surprised. Chance refers to gambling, to casinos, to blackjack,poker, slot mahcines, and horse racing. In games of chance, the outcome is totally and completely out of control for the player. There is little or no influnece on the result by th player. The level of risk is so high that the chance of winning it over a ong period of time is almost zero.
But, Luck is different, totally different. it is like the probabilities in action. Whever you see a person who has succeeded greatly, you would definitely notice a series or a chain of events that have happened in the past to achieve a particular outcome. The lucky person, for sure, did many things in combination, which staggeringly increased the likelihood that his or her desired goal could be achieved.
All problems appear very simple when solved. The great victorry of present was th result of a series of small victorie that went unnoticed.
Questions I ask myself
I dont remember who said this, but some one surely did say it. "You only have to succeed the last time". What a statement that is. I may fail over and over again, but all it takes is one big success to wipe out all my previous failures. But I guess, it is an after effect, and every such effect makes me ask certain questions to myself.
"What did I do right?", by asking so, I analyze every single thing that I did right in the situation, So what if it turned out to be a disaster? I must have done atleast one thing rightly. And thats definitely a motivation factor. I will surely smile when I think of a situatio when I was right.
"What would I do differently if I had the situation repeat or had to do all over again?", by asking so, I can appreciate life for teaching me valuable lessons that I was taught in the process. It makes me think of future and helps me motivate to do my best.
Everytime I ask these questions, I learn, understand, accept the facts, face the reality and grow. Despite the failures I have had in life, I would never want to lose out on enthusiasm, for I know its value, Nothing great was ever accomplished without enthusiasm in the history of mankind and nothing will ever be achieved without it either.
"What did I do right?", by asking so, I analyze every single thing that I did right in the situation, So what if it turned out to be a disaster? I must have done atleast one thing rightly. And thats definitely a motivation factor. I will surely smile when I think of a situatio when I was right.
"What would I do differently if I had the situation repeat or had to do all over again?", by asking so, I can appreciate life for teaching me valuable lessons that I was taught in the process. It makes me think of future and helps me motivate to do my best.
Everytime I ask these questions, I learn, understand, accept the facts, face the reality and grow. Despite the failures I have had in life, I would never want to lose out on enthusiasm, for I know its value, Nothing great was ever accomplished without enthusiasm in the history of mankind and nothing will ever be achieved without it either.
Fear and its manifestations
It is not what is going on around you but what is going on within you that is determining everything you are and everything you will ever accomplish. For that, one would need COURAGE. Like Winston Churchill once said "Courage is rightly considered the foremost of the virtues, for upon it all the others depend."
I had been thinking a lot on this. I was trying to figure out what is that undermines everryone from achieving their goals. What is it that counter-attacks courage so much so that the person is shattered and stripped off his/her self-confidence. Realistically speaking, the opposition of courage has been FEAR. Not since a day or two. Not since a year or a decade. It has been the same since the NOMAD age. Ever since human existed, like a two faced coin and a double edged sword, courage and fear go had in had. The emotion of fear will be and has always been the deadliest enemy to success.It sabotages possibilities and hopes of every individual.
I guess, it all goes with an individuality of a person. Until one is committed, there is a hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creativity, there is an elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills innumerable ideas and splendid plans.
I have always wondered why everyone has a typical pessismitic approach to the concept of fear. I beleive there is a good thing in it. A good thing of all the fears that you hold back. They are all learned. When i was kid, i never had a fear. I was unafraid, had no natural fears, except of falling down and darkness. I could express myself without an ounc eof doubt in my mind, I am sure it is with all as well. But as I grew up, parents, friends, teachers, people around me, all, one by one, began to manifest the power of fear in me. Each had a way of injecting fear in my mind. "Stop", "Get away from there!", "Put that down!!", "You are not supposed to do that" bla bla bla... and it went on..
As a result, at an early age, like any other kid, unknowingly, at my unconscious level, I developed a belief that I was too small to do the things and was probably weak and not yet ready. In other words, I started developing the fear of failure in me, which by the way, has now been tamed well and does not overpower me.
However, before I had even realised, the fear had started manifesting in different forms. Fear of rejection, Fears of disapproval and many more to the agony of my pain. I always beleived in few things. Mild fears of failure and rejection are abslutely good. They can act as a motivation fators for any individual to do what is necessary to succeed. Mild feelings are inadequacy and inferiority can drive a person to become the kind of person that the others will admire and respect. They kinda spur an individual. For example, if the fear of rejection is manifested in a valid consideration for the feelings and opinions of others, it can be helpful to an individual's position. Even the desire to be likede and accepted by others lies at the basis of respect for common courtesy, manners, politeness, and every other societal virtues that probably exist.
I tell myself that I dont have to do anything that I dont want to do and I can do anything that I really want to do. it kinda fills me with self confidence and helps me to take full control of my emotions and also helps me to override my conditional fears.
Like the actor Glen Ford once said, "If you do not do the thing you fear, the fear controls your life." But I like what Ralph Waldo Emerson told. Being a famous poet, what he said makes so much of sense. "Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain"
I had been thinking a lot on this. I was trying to figure out what is that undermines everryone from achieving their goals. What is it that counter-attacks courage so much so that the person is shattered and stripped off his/her self-confidence. Realistically speaking, the opposition of courage has been FEAR. Not since a day or two. Not since a year or a decade. It has been the same since the NOMAD age. Ever since human existed, like a two faced coin and a double edged sword, courage and fear go had in had. The emotion of fear will be and has always been the deadliest enemy to success.It sabotages possibilities and hopes of every individual.
I guess, it all goes with an individuality of a person. Until one is committed, there is a hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creativity, there is an elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills innumerable ideas and splendid plans.
I have always wondered why everyone has a typical pessismitic approach to the concept of fear. I beleive there is a good thing in it. A good thing of all the fears that you hold back. They are all learned. When i was kid, i never had a fear. I was unafraid, had no natural fears, except of falling down and darkness. I could express myself without an ounc eof doubt in my mind, I am sure it is with all as well. But as I grew up, parents, friends, teachers, people around me, all, one by one, began to manifest the power of fear in me. Each had a way of injecting fear in my mind. "Stop", "Get away from there!", "Put that down!!", "You are not supposed to do that" bla bla bla... and it went on..
As a result, at an early age, like any other kid, unknowingly, at my unconscious level, I developed a belief that I was too small to do the things and was probably weak and not yet ready. In other words, I started developing the fear of failure in me, which by the way, has now been tamed well and does not overpower me.
However, before I had even realised, the fear had started manifesting in different forms. Fear of rejection, Fears of disapproval and many more to the agony of my pain. I always beleived in few things. Mild fears of failure and rejection are abslutely good. They can act as a motivation fators for any individual to do what is necessary to succeed. Mild feelings are inadequacy and inferiority can drive a person to become the kind of person that the others will admire and respect. They kinda spur an individual. For example, if the fear of rejection is manifested in a valid consideration for the feelings and opinions of others, it can be helpful to an individual's position. Even the desire to be likede and accepted by others lies at the basis of respect for common courtesy, manners, politeness, and every other societal virtues that probably exist.
I tell myself that I dont have to do anything that I dont want to do and I can do anything that I really want to do. it kinda fills me with self confidence and helps me to take full control of my emotions and also helps me to override my conditional fears.
Like the actor Glen Ford once said, "If you do not do the thing you fear, the fear controls your life." But I like what Ralph Waldo Emerson told. Being a famous poet, what he said makes so much of sense. "Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain"
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